About

I’m a lawyer.  I’m female.  I have a 6 year old with autism, diagnosed in April 2010.  In my head, I’ve gone through hundreds of questions, worries, and wonders.  Some of them leak out here.   I laugh.  I cry.  I express anger and confusion but I do it all because of the great love I have for my son which is endless and forever.
I used to post to this blog on Monday, Wednesday and Friday.  Life has become hectic and posts now appear whenever I can but I try to post, at least, once a week.
If you want to reach me you can through “liking” the Solodialogue page on Facebook, following me on Twitter (@theekarenesq) or sending me an email at solodialogue@live.com.  Thanks for stopping by!

22 Responses to About

  1. Michele says:

    Hi there
    Just came across your blog. My little boy Gus (turning 4 in May) was recently dx with Aspergers. Lovely to read from the heart of another mum
    thanks
    Michele

  2. tjthurston says:

    Thought I’d respond here. We have a lot in common (and until recently even more). I am a lawyer. I am the father of two boys, my oldest is 11 and has Asperger’s; my younger is 9 and is neuro-typical. My wife has MS and is bed / wheelchair ridden. So I am much like a single Dad/Mom. My wife provides plenty of love, but as for physical things (transportation, making meals, laundry, baths, etc.), that is where I come in. I used to be a solo, but I couldn’t afford to support my family (too many no-pays). So recently I took a job with a large firm to have enough money to pay all the bills, but it is harder working in an office than from my home. Anyway, just wanted to say hi, love your blog, and truly relate to you in many ways! Hang in there!

    • solodialogue says:

      Thank you for your note. You have a lot of work and stress going on. I’m sorry for that. We all deal with it differently but we must all try to find some way to de-stress ourselves and keep our sanity while multi-tasking so much at once. You hang in there too!

  3. Fi -From the Madhouse- says:

    You do it all for the great love of your son…i LOVE that!!!

    Perfectly put!

  4. J.T. says:

    Hi, I always follow your blog and I think it’s really interesting! I am the mother of an autistic boy of almost 4 years, and while reading your post I wondered if by chance the fact of not looking at the paper while copying or writing is not due to some difficulties with eye and motor coordination. It’s just a guess… Or maybe it is the simple (and classic) avoidance of the task!
    J.T.

    • solodialogue says:

      Hi Mamma! Thanks for your comment. I wondered too- early on if it was some hand eye coordination thing. However, this little guy can follow a video game, read a book and manipulate the computer with ease… Thus, yes, I believe it is classic avoidance. 🙂

  5. J.T. says:

    Hi Solo! So I think you’re right… and I think I am that I have problems with hand eye coordination, I did not realize I had commented on the wrong page 🙂
    So so sorry……

    • solodialogue says:

      Haha! Don’t be sorry! It does not matter to me where the comments are placed! 🙂

      • Marguerite says:

        I am very discouraged tonight. My grandson who I have raised since two has autism. I entered him in karate and signed up for a year and now am not sure I did the right thing. He laughs uncontrollably at times, and has a great deal of difficulty sparring as he doesn’t understand the concept. I am debating whether telling the karate instrutor he needs extra help as I don’t know how they would take it. I see a downs syndrome child in there so I know they work with handicapped students but so many people do not know about autism. He has an IQ of 134 and is brilliant academically.

      • solodialogue says:

        I don’t know how old your grandson is now or how long you’ve been doing this but the first thing I want to tell you is that we who raise special needs children all get discouraged and you are not alone. It is a roller coaster of a ride. The discouraged end of it is the fear and heartbreak. But the other end is the triumph, and the joy when our child surmounts what neuro typical children find easy.

        With something like karate, I can only offer you my perspective with my son. He has something called dyspraxia that goes with his autism. http://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dyspraxia
        when my son goes swimming, he has trouble coordinating the kicking and scooping motions. Each motion has to be taught separately and practiced before they can be combined. I’m guessing this might be what is going on with your grandson. He needs more than observing others and sparring involves complex sets of movements together that probably need to be taught -more than in the lessons- in occupational therapy, physical therapy and/or ABA support systems. The karate issue with a child with an IQ of 134 (!) is probably just a matter of being taught a practicing each step over time until they become understood in his brain in a way different from how neuro typical children learn.

        I hope this helps you and encourages you to get some additional support because I’m willing to bet that with this extra effort, the karate issue can be overcome. xo

  6. Nikki says:

    I’m so happy to have found your blog. My son, who just turned four, was diagnosed with autism a few months ago. We were expecting the diagnoses, but it’s still overwhelming. Just wanted to say hello and that if you ever see a frazzled looking lady with a curious little boy passing you repeatedly on that escalator at the mall, it’s probably me.

  7. Something is up with my laptop. I left you a comment on my blog (yesterday’s post) but I can’t get it to show up. So, wanted to let you know I got your comment and answered you at the end of the post. Hope that makes sense. 🙂 Just didn’t want you to think I didn’t get your comments. Sam

  8. I resonate with your situation. As a single mom of a (now adult Aspie who was not diagnosed until she was 31 by the way, but I always knew her brain worked differently) brilliant light God gave me to watch over, I still seek information. You inspire me with you compassion for others. You give them hope. You share your stories, and they are filled with beauty and love. I have nominated you for the Very Inspiring Blogger Award, and you can visit http://www.LivingbyIntuitionandInspiration.wordpress.com to learn more. Thank you for sharing your world, and his, with us.

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  10. s1ngal says:

    the background photo is BEAUTIFUL.

  11. sherrimatt says:

    Hi solodialogue. I am a mother of a 20 year old daughter who was diagnosed with Asperger’s when she was 18. Your blog isso inspiring and beautifully written. As such, I have nominated you for The Super Sweet Blogging Award – see http://sherrimatthewsblog.wordpress.com/2013/05/13/sweet-dreams-are-made-of-these/ – which I hope you will accept.
    Congratulations and I look forward to reading more of your wonderful posts!

    • solodialogue says:

      Thank you so much! I’m excited to hear from you and that you are enjoying the blog. I’m very grateful for the award. Thanks again. Looking forward to reading your blog! 🙂

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